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Lucy Ball is an executive coach, pairs coach and team coach.

Aug 2016

Disappointment

It’s so hard to live with disappointment – when our expectations are not met or our dreams dashed.

It’s also hard to disappoint someone else – to say to them I’m sorry I haven’t met your expectations today.

In fact both being disappointed and disappointing others are so hard that we go to great lengths to avoid them.

What disappointments are you afraid of and what lengths are you going to to avoid them?

Thank you to Sonia March Nevis for creating the biggest ‘aha’ moment of my decade when she helped me understand that disappointing others and being disappointed are not only inevitable side effects of a connected, well-lived life but should be viewed as skills to master.

How could the skill of disappointing others, help you be more of what you need to be?

How could the skill of bearing your own disappointment help you to live and work more kindly and more bravely?

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